I am an all-or-nothing kind of girl. If I feel something is worth going for, I will go all in. No holds-barred focus and dedication. I can have a laser focus on one idea, or hobby, or goal, to the exclusion of everything else. It's a darn good thing I have a husband, kids, and career to also pay attention to, or there's a distinct possibility that I would hole myself up and work nonstop on something until my brain and body begged for mercy. This kind of passion has its perks, and certainly has its downfalls. One of the biggest is that sometimes, holding onto something so tight can crush the life out of it. In order to make your goals happen, you have to set them free.
In her Desire Map Book, Danielle LaPorte said it best: "Want it with all your heart. But don't get attached to getting it." What? That sounds impossible, doesn't it? But friends, the crazy thing is...it's totally brilliant, and absolutely spot-on.
This is such a hard concept to grasp, because it sounds contradictory. Let's see if this helps: Imagine you are holding a bird in your hand. If you close your hand around the bird, or squeeze it too tightly, it will squirm. It might bite you. It will try everything possible to get as far away from you as possible. If you hold it lightly, and treat it like a precious being, then it just might stay. If you open your hand, then yes, it will fly away. But it will also come back to you, because it can trust you to respect its need for freedom.
When I created Amy's Seasons, I was a little too focused at first on what other people might think. I spent a sweaty weekend worrying about whether or not I would be accepted by society at large, and especially by my own friends and family. I drifted towards thinking about what kinds of photos might be more popular. Thankfully, that was short-lived. The quickest way to take a completely uninspired photo is to look for the photo that will sell. No one wants a photo that has no soul behind it. I very much want success with Amy's Seasons, and I'm willing to work hard to get there. But in order to get there, I can't focus on success. I have to focus on taking photos of things that move me, that say something to me, and then hope that other people feel the same.
Your dreams, your goals, are precious beings. They need you to hold them lightly, while loving them with all your heart. Don't hold on to them so tightly you squeeze the life out of them. Let them breathe. They will thank you by staying with you until you are ready for them to fly. Because once you have achieved your goal, you have to let it out into the world. But that doesn't mean it is leaving you. Not at all. It just means you get to experience the joy of watching it soar.
I am so glad you are here! Welcome to my blog. This is your space, too. My name is Amy, and I am no stranger to the ups and downs of life. Join me as we search for beauty, authenticity, tell our truth, and hold space for each other in the messiness of life.