Have you found your tribe? Basically, your tribe is your people. It's the group of people that "get" you. They have your back, you have theirs, and it's all good. They are your sisterhood (or brotherhood, as the case may be), your group, your posse, your chosen family. I think finding that group of special people is so essential to building your happy life, yet it's one of the hardest things to do.
I just got back from spending a girl's weekend with some of my tribe members. I haven't seen them in way too long, and it was lovely to reconnect. You know that feeling when you receive something you were desperately needing but didn't realize HOW desperately until you get it? It's like scratching an itch that you didn't realize was driving you crazy until you don't feel it anymore. My sisters are good for my soul. I can be myself around them, even the crazy wacky me, and not worry about what they might think. I mean, sure, they think I'm nuts. But they're cool with my nuttiness (at least, that's the impression they give, and I'm going with it). We love and value each other exactly as we are, so there's no need to be anything other than ourselves. I went to college with these friends, lived with them or in close proximity to them. We've seen each other sick, grumpy, sad, drunk (well, that one doesn't apply to all of them. At least one of them is a good girl), lonely, scared, without make-up and in pajamas, exhausted, etc. You get the idea. It's easy to be comfortable with who you are, when you are around people that love the authentic you.
But what about when you don't have that? What if the majority of your time isn't spent around people like that? When if in your daily life you aren't comfortable just being yourself? What if you feel judged or critiqued by the people you spend your days with? It can be very hard to embrace your authentic self when you don't feel free to show yourself to the world.
The fact is, many of us aren't lucky enough to have a local tribe. Your people might live far away. Maybe you haven't found your people yet. Maybe you connect with your people through social media. One of my hopes for this blog is to create a tribe, because I believe so strongly in the importance of having one. Regardless of where you are in the journey of creating your sisterhood, I want you to remember one thing: you are worth embracing exactly as you are. Be your authentic self now, before your find your chosen family. Because the weird trick to finding the people that will love you as you are is to be truly yourself before you find them. You have to be yourself in order to attract your tribe. You have to be vulnerable in order to find the people that you can be vulnerable with.
It sounds backwards. But think of it this way. If you are a very spontaneous person, but feel like you need to be more structured and organized in order to be loved, then you will act like a structured and organized person. You will then draw to you other people who like structure and organization. Therefore, you end up feeling like you need to keep up the facade of being a structured and organized person. If, however, you accept the fact that you are naturally spontaneous, and put that honest view of yourself out in the universe, then you will attract people who appreciate spontaneity, and they will reinforce for you a positive view of that particular trait, allowing you to more fully embrace who you naturally are. Did you follow that? It's kind of magical. And it starts with being brave enough to put yourself authentic self out there, and trust that your people will catch you. So be your crazy, nutty, kind, spontaneous, organized, goofy, kind, compassionate self. You are fantastic as you are. And one day, your tribe will find you.
I am so glad you are here! Welcome to my blog. This is your space, too. My name is Amy, and I am no stranger to the ups and downs of life. Join me as we search for beauty, authenticity, tell our truth, and hold space for each other in the messiness of life.