I am a dreamer. I always have been. As soon as I accomplish one dream, I start creating the next one. There is something so beautiful about building the life of your dreams. And it definitely connects with my desire to have everything be just the way I like it! But I am also impatient, and uncomfortable with uncertainty. Some days, I wish I could stop dreaming. I wish I could just set it all down and walk away. There are days when my dreams feel impossible.
I get anxious at the thought that my dreams are taking so long. I panic at the thought that maybe they won't really happen. The days get filled up with work, and errands, and cleaning, and kids, and phone calls. I could go on and on. I'm sure you could, too.
How on earth do we fit in achieving our goals? Where do we find the time to work on anything other than getting through the day? And that's not even considering juggling multiple goals. Maybe you have work goals you'd like to achieve, on top of personal goals. Maybe you are reaching for the skies in all areas of your life and you are suddenly feeling like you've left solid ground behind, and you are quickly zooming off into outer space!
It's not bad to have personal goals. It's great. Fabulous, even. It's sad when people go through life and never discover what they want from life, let alone try to achieve it. But to know what your dream is, and never be able to focus on it? That's downright excruciating. It makes your fingers twitch and your soul jumpy, never able to settle because it can't find its home.
When my life gets full, and my goals seem so big they look impossible, I try to do these 4 things:
1. Get some sleep. Often when I'm discouraged, it's really because I'm overtired. Exhaustion makes everything seem harder and take longer. Taking several days to catch up on sleep can make a huge difference in my mental state.
2. Break my plans down into small pieces. Teeny-tiny, if necessary. As small as needed until I feel like I can accomplish at least that one thing. Do it again tomorrow. And the next day.
3. Pray. To me, that means spending time with God. To you, that might mean focusing on your connection with the universe. Or maybe it just means listening to your intuition (which I highly recommend, by the way). Whatever it is, feeling connected to a life source bigger than myself and listening to what my heart is telling me helps me feel like I am being guided on a path, rather than just floundering around on my own.
4. Get comfortable with discomfort. Oh boy, is that a hard one. I am so bad at it. I don't like that feeling of things being not quite the way you want them. It's especially hard when you know what you want, and you are envisioning this idyllic future and it's noticeably clashing with the reality of your present. But you are here, in this spot, for a reason. Be really here. Sit in the discomfort for a while. That discomfort is here for a reason, too. You need it. It is a guide, to help you get somewhere else. Transitions are awkward, but you don't get anywhere without them.
I hope these ideas help you. I'd love to hear what tips you have found that work for you. And if you need help lightening your load, send me an email at: firstname.lastname@example.org.
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